Yeah, you heard me right. Let your kid be bored and STOP trying to entertain them.
Hey, beautiful friend. I can almost bet you have never had someone give you tips on how to keep your child bored. Everyone is always coming up with new ideas and different ways of how you can keep your kids busy.
This disposition, of always making sure your kids are busy, has most likely made your kid a consumer and not a creator.
See that’s the problem with filling up all the gaps of time you child has in a day with electronics or homework or activities created by the parent for them, is that there is no room for THEIR creativity to develop.
Like if you are going to come up with all the answers to my problems, then I’ll sit here and wait still for you to solve my life.
Kids need to be bored to get creative.
There is no reason for a child to use their imagination if they are distracted with a task or an activity thought out and imposed by someone else. I have seen this in my kids. There is a vast difference in their behavior comparing the days I let them watch Tv or make them do things compared to when I intentionally plan gaps of time in our schedule for “free play.”
Again, Kids most significant incentive to create is boredom.
So you want to make sure you carve out and create a space for them to come up with whatever game they want, even if that time is not long.
How can you do this? By thinking ahead.
1) Talk to your spouse and get on the same page.
It will be very counterproductive if you on one side are putting all your efforts not to let them watch Tv and just putting up with their loudness and restlessness, but then all they have to do is go to your husband to get what they want.
So get on the same page about the reason and benefits of doing things differently than the rest of the world and not just giving your kids a phone, tv, or tablet when they are restless. Make sure you guys agree.
2) Plan the specific times you guys will be intentionally creating these time spaces for the kids.
If you fail to plan; you plan to fail.
If you allow your day to dictate your kids’ schedule, in the heat of the moment, you will probably fall back into old habits. So you need to plan those specific times.
Now, I’m not saying you need to plan hour by hour your day. If that is your cup of tea, then great. But this is not necessary. What you have to do is at least plan from what time to what time you will be letting them get bored and encouraging them to play by themselves.
3) Get them toys that require their them coming up with ideas and don’t do the thinking or imaging for them.
I’m talking about toys that don’t make sound or move on their own. Some examples of great toys for imagination are balls, hula hoops, bikes, play cars, dolls, superhero capes, etc.
Toys that they can use to create their own story and not a premade one.
(You can download a free printable list with 30 open-ended toys HERE)
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You are so loved.
Hugs and tighter hugs,