Hey, beautiful friend!
I’m so glad you are here, spending some quality time with me. That’s my love language; fun fact. So if this is your first time, you are most welcome in this little corner of the internet I hope you stay awhile. And if you are coming back, hey gurl! I missed you.
Today I’m putting my teacher hat on a little bit, and we are talking about the real purpose of marriage with a “big picture” perspective. Most people believe marriage is just a natural conclusion to a series of emotions.
That you marry someone because you are in love with them and they are in love with you. They have similar ideas and interests as you, and they are easy to look in your opinion. And, “voila” marriage license signed. Now, your whole life’s mission is to make each other happy and give each other companionship.
But, that couldn’t further away from the real purpose of marriage. Let’s go back to the beginning and use the first marriage as our case study.
“Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper corresponding to him.” Genesis 2:18
Take notice at what did God think Adam lacked and let’s find out why.
God said Adam needed a “helper” not a companion, or a lover, or a friend.
Now I believe and know by experience, that Eve helped Adam with companionship and affection and friendship. But what was she helping him do?
The whole reason Eve was created for, and marriage came in to play was so that they both can accomplish something. What? You might ask. Well if you just look a few verses before this one, you will see that God gave an assignment to Adam.
“The Lord God took the man and placed him in the garden of Eden to work it and watch over it.” Gen 2:15
He was to work the garden and watch over it. Basically, it was to rule and steward what God had given him.
So there it is.
Wives’ primary calling is to be co-labors and helpers to their husbands. And marriage’s primary purpose is to fulfill our God-given assignments.
Now, this is shocking because we live in a day where what we feel is of utmost importance. If you don’t feel like doing something, then you shouldn’t do it.
In other words, Let’s allow our flesh and our fallen nature to dictate our lives and to define God’s creations.
If that doesn’t sound ridiculous, the I’m crazy.
But seriously, I’m not saying that in marriage you can’t feel BIG feelings. Quite the opposite, I believe that there are emotions you can only experience fully and exponentially in marriage.
So, If I can paint a picture for you, it would be that marriage is a vehicle that is heading to a destination which is the assignment from God, and our emotions are the gas that allows that vehicle to get to the destination.
I’m well aware that women being helpers is not an embraced statement nowadays and might even be disappointing to you if you are a woman. But it shouldn’t be.
And before you allow your mind to tell you all the lies about how that statement is not in your best interest, let me assure you that God is brilliant, and He loves you. So, if He came up with this idea of marriage and gave each party a role and a function, it’s because that was the absolute best thing that could have happened to us.
I have a lot of dreams and desires in my heart that I know God put in me. Somehow, all of my desires compliment my husband’s in one way or another. And that feels great!
I believe that marriage is like a company or an organization that God uses to impact the world significantly. Marriage is the representation on Earth of the relationship Jesus has with the Church, and that is no small thing.
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i would love to chat more about it.
You are so loved.
Hugs and tighter hugs,